Regular readers to my blog will know that I have for some time tried on and off to potty train my toddler, but without much luck! That was however until our family holiday to Center Parcs in May, when everything suddenly seemed to take a change for the better!
On the first night of our holiday our toddler announced that she needed the toilet and asked if I would take her. A little bit taken aback I took her hand and led her to the ladies, full expecting nothing to happen and for me to return with a hysterical toddler. However I have to say I was proven wrong! Toddler girl promptly sat on the toilet and went! I was quite taken aback, as was my husband on our return! This was the picture for most of our holiday and everything seemed to be going really well.
On our return home however toddler started to take steps backward in her potty training and the couple of times I put her in pants, she had accidents so I decided to stick with the pull up nappies / training pants. After a few weeks though I realised that the training pants were making my toddler lazy. She knew she could just go in the pants and still feel dry and all the positive steps that had happened on holiday seemed to be becoming a distant memory.
I decided to bite the bullet and move from pull ups to normal pants, with some Dry Like Me Pads that a friend had given me. We had a few initial accidents but this wasn’t necessarily a bad thing, as the pads caught much of the accident but they still made my little girl realise that she was wet, which obviously she didn’t like.
For quite a while I had to keep asking my little girl if she needed the toilet and if after an hour or so she hadn’t been I would make her go with me, which 9 out of 10 times had a result. I think by regularly taking her it helped her realise when she needed the toilet and the importance of going regularly too. If she was left for whatever reason she would often say she needed the toilet literally as she was about to go and we had no time to grab the potty.
However we are now 2 months post holiday and my toddler is pretty much dry. We have the occasional accident, but things on the whole are going really well. She has started telling us when she needs to go (and giving us time to get her there!) and on a morning we regularly find her potty by the bathroom door and she has got up and taken herself to the toilet.
To add to our potty training fun we have, for well over a year now, had issues with our toddler being scared to have a bowel movement too and it has been so traumatic. I’ve been at my wits end. We’ve seen health visitors and pediatricians and nothing has helped or worked. However since the potty training has improved, although we are still having minor issues, things don’t seem as bad as they were. I have had a few occasions over the last couple of weeks when she has gone without a fight at all, which has been amazing and strangely lovely to see! lol!
The other positives are that my toddler is more outgoing and playful, as she isn’t holding her movements for as long. Before when she used to hold herself for days and days she would become irritable and really withdrawn, refusing to play or interact, which was hard work in itself. It’s lovely to see her charging around more and just being… a toddler!
It’s been a LONG time coming but I am hoping that we are almost there! All I can say to anyone else on the potty training journey is patience is a virtue!